Minimalism

Try to look at the things that are in the drawers of your study desk. I can guess that there will be some things that have not been touched for a few months, even years. Among them there will be things that you bought at a bazaar just because you think it is cute. You never used it because you don’t need it, but you feel that your money will become a waste if you get rid of it. So the item is stuck in the drawers without having its share of use in the world.

Well that is the problem with nearly half of my possessions. The items are from little things like all sizes of adhesive labels, a box full of hair clips from the nineties that are too childish too be worn, up to huge rolls of posters that I took off from my wall, because I hate how the people on the poster were watching me when I sleep. I always kept them lying about in my room without ever thinking that they could be of greater use, had I let them be possessed by someone else in need.

Not just my drawer, but the room was filled with un-useful things that drive my mother crazy, because she believes in minimalism. In how I view it, minimalism is a way of life where you only possess things that are useful for sustaining. She has been a devoted practitioner since she was born, and her office has no aesthetic ornaments at all. I never buy in to her idealism, because I used to believe that cute items give happiness in life.

Then my mother told me to clean up my bedroom. She gathered all my things on the floor and forced me to determine which items that I cannot live without, and which items that will be more useful if it is given to someone else. It was then that I realized that there are more un-useful things than the useful ones. I now understand that those things have nothing to do with my personal growth in being a better person, and they will not help me with anything other than taking up spaces in my room. So, every time I encounter something nice in a store, I ask myself “Do you need it or do you want it?”

Your Children's Names

(Photo courtesy of Pandu and Dany)

Baby Names

As a girl, I would fantasize quite a lot about marriage, what kind of party i will have, the number of kids I will give birth to, what house I will live in, so on and so forth. Then, baby names come up in my mind. For me, names are a crucial part of a person's life. You know how celebs names are usually different from their real name? I don't want that for my children. If ever my children become celebrities or some really famous important people (WHICH THEY WILL HAVE TO BE AS LONG AS THEY STILL LIVE UNDER MY ROOF, EATING MY FOOD), i would not want them to change names. I want them to proudly bare the name that my husband and I gave them. In my mind, my children’s names have to be really good.

So what should a baby name be like?

1. Different

My children will have names that are never used on a child before, but nothing weird like Anakku Lelakiku, or Banyu Air or something like that. It will have to be an appropriate name, that won't make the child be embarassed at school, but so different that it will evoke thoughts and gain curiosity.

2. Idealistic

In the name, there should be hopes and images of how great the child will be. In this sense, I would love to have Javanese essences for this. I think Javanese have great philosophy and local wisdom. An uncle of mine said that Islam did not land in Java coz the Javanese are already wise and strong enough to the extent of not needing any religion to help and guide the people. Unlike the Arabs who were barbaric back then, and secretly still are until now.

3. Short and Catchy

A name doesn’t need to be as long as railroad tracks to show that the person is great. I believe that if the short names are already unique, then short will do. It has to be catchy and easy to remember, so the child could leave lasting impression on people.

However, the most important of all is not about the name, but about how to work hard and raise the child as hard as you can. Do not ever let yourself be impregnated if you do not have the money. This is the problem with the people in my village here, on the outskirt of Depok near the borders of Jakarta. People give birth as if milk, food, and schooling is the government's treat. They don't realize that their children need a good childhood in order to become a fully functional person in the society. Furthermore, if you then could afford a child, you will have to teach goodness to them. Make them practice it by becoming a model yourself.

In conclusion, having children is a very tough circumstance, yet the reward will be unimaginable.

Ciuman Sebelum Menikah: Mematikan

Cewek mana yang gak pingin dapetin movie kiss:

Sambil menonton film jelek di bioskop gelap yang dingin itu, kami tak sengaja bertemu pandang. Tapi pandangan kali ini beda, sangat berbeda. Saya sampai dibuat takut olehnya. Takut karena saya telah mengetahui sebuah fakta yang sebenarnya sih sangat obvious, tapi memalukan. Ia ingin mencium saya. Tau betul saya, yakin seratus persen. Walau belum pernah saya tau seperti apa itu berciuman bibir dengan lawan jenis, saat ini seperti ada gluduk kencang yang membisikan sebuah pengetahuan entah dari mana: ia menginginkan bibir saya. Saya yang sebenarnya hanya pernah bermimpi-mimpi tentang sebuah movie kiss jadi berpikir, kalau saya mengizinkan orang ini mencium saya, ketauan dong kalo gw juga pengeeeen!!!! Nggak!! Gila, malu banget. Harga diri gw sebagai wanita, harga yang jauh lebih mahal daripada barang katon manapun di dunia, bakal jatuh ke dasar palung mariana kalo ketauan. Biarin deh gw munafik, tapi jangan sampe ketauan kalo gw jg pingin dicium ini anak! Jangan sampe ketauan kalo bibir dia itu sering ada dalem visualisasi gw di siang bolong dan doa memohon gw di malam hitam. Jangan sampe ciuman ini terjadi. Ah, tapi aku juga mau. Ah, tapi memang ini yang gw inginkan dari dulu. Ah, kenapa mukanya ngedeket sih. Ah, kenapa dia nyebut nama gw dengan suara berbisik tercekat kayak orang gantung diri sih. Anjing, gw nervous abis. Anjing, merem aja gw. Anjing. Anjing. Anjing. Alhamdulillah.....

Beginilah kira-kira bayangan saya terhadap ciuman. Kalo lebay, maklum lah, belom tau apa-apa. Hm, kalo yang gw bayangin, ciuman pertama akan menjadi sebuah event yang teramat sangat memalukan. Lo tau dia mau. Dia juga tau kalo lo mau. Jadi, kenyataan bahwa kita tau bahwa kita sama-sama mau dan kayaknya "sesuatu" yang kita mau itu bakal terjadi, rasa-rasanya adalah hal yang bakal memalukan banget di dunia.

Gw tanya ke temen gw yang habis putus dengan cowoknya yang menjadi lelaki first kiss dia. Bukannya menenangkan temen gw, atau menghiburnya, gw malah ngubek2 tentang first kissnya dia. Sungguh kurang ajar gue, sebagai teman. Tapi kayaknya pas aja gitu, kalo gw nanya saat itu. Pertama gw ceritain tentang bayangan gw pas first kiss, dan ternyata kata dia, bayangan gw SALAH!!! Lebay kayak komik2 jepang serial cantik. Kemakan komik banget gueeee. hahaha.

Trus gw tanya, apakah event tersebut memalukan. Dia bilang malu banget. Abis dicium, temen gw jadi gak bisa gerak gitu saking malunya. Hahaha.





Dan mulailah analisis gueee::::

Kenapa kita gak boleh sentuhan fisik/seksual sebelum menikah? Karena sentuhan-sentuhan itu bersifat mengikat yang sangat kuat. Apalagi untuk cewek, makhluk lemah yang gampang kegeeran. Saat-saat bersentuhan itu, seorang cewek rela melepaskan harga dirinya. Harga diri? Ya. Saat berciuman, seorang cewek rela malu semalu-malunya karena ketauan menginginkan ciuman itu. Malu-semalunya karena ternyata akhirnya ketauan bahwa si cewek itu pun juga punya hasrat-hasrat yang sama kayak cowoknya. Cewek yang biasanya marah-marah, kalo denger temen-temen cowok kegirangan pas lagi ngobrol bokep, ternyata doyan juga sama hal-hal begituan. Malu, karena ketauan bahwa dulunya ia munafik. Maluuu!!!

Makanya ciuman, etc sebaiknya setelah menikah. Karena dengan sentuhan-sentuhan itu, hubungan laki-bini akan terikat kuat. Si laki bersedia menjaga rasa malu si bini, dan si bini rela memberi semua malunya ke si laki. Kalo sentuhan-sentuhan itu dilakukan sebelum nikah, dan akhirnya putus. Hacur lah itu cewek. Makanya suka banyak cerita lebay tentang cewek diputusin.

Dan kalo sentuhan-sentuhan itu dilakukan setelah menikah, rasanya gimana yah. Kayaknya bakal jauh lebih nikmat gitu. Karena keinginannya udah ditahan2 dari lama. Ntar pas eksekusi, pasti rasanya kayak meledak2 hahaha. Kalo sebelumnya udah seneng begitu2an sebelum nikah, pas udah nikah hal2 kayak gitu jadi kerasa biasa aja. Nikah cuman pacaran biasa, tapi harus bayar tagihan. Kalo gitu2an setelah nikah kan jadinya ada bumbunya gitu.

Duh ngelantur parah gue. Munafik!!!!!!!